So, the question is....

Best info found says that only 10 states allow by law for child support orders for adult children beyond the age of 18 (even then, they have to meet the criteria). But of the other 40 states, 11 states have laws restricting it, and 7 others are silent on the issue while the other 22 states completely forbid it.

So, the question is this....

...of the 10 states that allow it and 11 states with restrictive laws about it, do any of them also force by law any married parents to pay and support children over the age of 18...

... and the answer is..

no

none of them.

So, why then - are divorced parents required to pay?

It really isn't about the kids. It's all about the $$$$ , isn't it.

Just because you can do something, doesn't mean you should.

But lets go one more step with it. If these young adults are being supported by a child support order, then why doesn't the CSE agencies pay this support to the child/young adult whom they are meant to support?

I'm just saying.

http://www.kidsinthemiddle.org/billofrights.htm

A clear conscience is usually the sign of a bad memory.

"Life is an adventure in forgiveness."
by Norman Cousins

Welcome Comments

In response to a couple of recent comments:

To R.: Thanks for the love and support.
Luv, from Me


To D.: Bless your heart, you've been misinformed. I'm glad to hear that you don't attempt to marginalize your child's father. Your child will benefit from it. Thank you for offering a prayer for us.
Good luck, from Me

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.... and to anyone else who has already or is considering making a comment.....


I will point out to you that most of the information on our website and blog is directed to the divorce industry; lawmakers, states, lawyers, courts, judges. If you don't want to be discussed in this blog, don't comment. This blog was not directed at any one person, which you can tell if you've read other posts, until the "other side" decided to bring attention to themselves, comment in unpleasant ways and drag everyone in earshot into it. If that's what they do, good for them. Not surprising.

Comments that are unpleasant toward another person will not be published...

.....the only exception I've made is for a (supposed) daughter of a particular fiasco who vented (if it was even really her - I gave the benefit of the doubt) and I've tolerated it for now.

Anyone who visits any of my blogs hoping for some drama or thinking that this legal issue will play out here in blogland...

Move along little doggy.
Go get your drama fix somewhere else.

That's not how we roll.

See - it says 'By the mom' at the top of the page. And everything that I write herein is my opinion.

So, in retrospect, I called out for some truth. Mae culpa. I do hope that telling the truth doesn't offend anyone. If you have to hide something - you probably did something wrong.

To say that it's okay for anyone to steal or lie because someone else deserves to be treated that way is really inappropriate (can u believe someone actually said that ?) and I hope you don't teach that to your kids - touché - that kind of business is not a "desperate times calls for desperate measures" activity... but there are many other appropriate descriptive words for it....

When people have some respect for others and behave kindly, all kinds of disagreements can be worked out. The jist of it is - that the divorce industry doesn't benefit from you working it out and they allow and even encourage people to keep pushing each other. It keeps the industry humming. The states get funds from the federal government for the amount of money they can collect. So, the only ones held accountable for anything are the ones they target to get money from. States have budgets to meet. It has to be profitable. Greed is never satisfied.

Two Sides to Every Story

We received a comment from (supposedly) his other daughter on this blog yesterday. If it was really her, it wasn't necessarily positive but any communication is better than none - and I'm going to call it a Blessing and keep hope.

Here is the comment.... (deleted for the greater good) Instead, lets keep in mind that ..."Kind words do not cost much. Yet they accomplish much." Blaise Pascal

There are - always - two sides to every story. Which is a valid point if you've heard both sides. If you only stop to listen to one side of any situation you cannot make an informed decision for yourself.

We don't have her phone number or her address, we have asked for it but we were denied. Maybe in part because it leads to some truth that someone doesn't want to admit. Because the "other side" says she and her sister were in college and living at home from 2004 thru 2008. We already know what's true about that and what isn't. Like she said, her sister was in Kosovo. We'd like very much for the "other side" to admit the truth about that and a multitude of other things.

If any of the girls seek the truth, they have to be willing to accept what they learn - and I can only hope that they will also tell the truth. Unfortunately, we haven't seen that come to fruition yet. We haven't ever shared all the details of what happened with any of them. They deserve better than to be put in the middle.

But for anyone who ever wants to see the documents and proof that we have - we're an open book. We offer it to you - come see for yourself.

And this is what can happen to a family. The only constant is love. It is possible to disagree with someone and still have a loving relationship.

My wish for all of you reading this - is loving relationships with people who care about you.

Elephant in the room

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Elephant_in_the_room

"A greedy person provokes conflict, but whoever trusts in the Lord will prosper."

Proverbs 28:25